After being pregnant twice now, I have realized that the rude conversations never end. I can’t even keep track of some of the crazy chats I have had with people.
When I was expecting, I was fortunate to share my journey with friends and family. The convos we would have about the comments that came our way were endless. Some made us laugh. While others have been like “Can You Believe He/She said that?” Actually, I do. Because People can be rude AF.
So here is my advice on how you can check your manners before opening your mouth.
When You Are Pregnant and People Say “Better You, Than Me”
Yes, this actually happened to me. Excited to share my pregnancy news, I had someone tell me “Better You Then Me”. Bringing a life into the world is an overall happy time. If you don’t have anything positive to say then don’t say anything at all. Pregnant women are already nervous and excited at the same time.
You Better Enjoy Yourself Now, because You Aren’t Going to Get Any Sleep for a Long Time
We know that there will be challenges with parenthood. There is no need to highlight them right now. Let the mommy-to-be enjoy the stage she is currently in.
“Was the Baby Planned?”
I always wonder why people ask this question. Granted this may be a question you ask a close girlfriend or sister, buttttt it still can be invasive. Be careful with this one.
“You are ready to pop!!” (classic line)
Tell us something we hadn’t heard before. Nine times out of ten when pregnant women are being asked this question we are counting down the days, hours, minutes until we give birth. We are already a bit uncomfortable physically and we don’t need a reminder.
“Your having another girl/boy? Will you try again for a boy/girl?”
Generally speaking, you don’t know what it took for this woman to conceive. It could have taken this mother years to have her first, second or third child. Each child is significant whether it’s a boy or a girl. Let’s just wish the mommy-to-be again well. Something as precious as life,doesn’t need to sound insignificant with the disappointment of having a boy over a girl or vice versa.
Well, there is my list. Have you caught yourself saying any of these comments above? I hope this list has given you some insight from a pregnant woman’s perspective. I will be sharing a Part II to this post soon. Be on the look out for it.
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